Relationship between two cultures
Kenya 2024
What constitutes a relationship? Relationships can look very different, but one thing is certain: we humans are absolute relationship beings, which is a good thing. Some people fall in love with strangers from a young age. Others fall in love later in life, while others find new love over and over.
A love affair between two people from different ethnic, cultural, or linguistic backgrounds is no longer unusual. With all of the social media available today, it is easier than ever to communicate with someone from anywhere in the world. Long-distance relationships, in my opinion, open up entirely new possibilities for love. Love today has no boundaries.
Long-distance relationships can range from an hour to thousands of kilometers. We went from seeing each other once a week to not seeing each other for years. From living in the same country to living on entirely different continents. They go from having no time difference to one waking up while the other falls asleep. We communicate with one another every day, whether by phone or in writing. From speaking the same language to speaking entirely different languages. From sharing the same religion to coming from two different religions. We share the same culture, but we come from two entirely different cultures. Last but not least, we have the same skin color, but our ethnicity is completely different.
Long-distance relationships generate a lot of discussion points, and believe me, you hear a lot. Although such a relationship is not uncommon, many people still view it as a "concept" that must be challenged. There are so many prejudices to hear, especially if you are in an intercultural relationship. But either you stand by your relationship, or I advise you to leave it alone. You need a thick skin, and if you don't already have one, you'll make one.
We couldn't be more different in terms of origin and appearance. However, we are so similar that we often wonder if we grew up in different cultures. Our parents were very concerned about us, and there are understandable biases on both sides toward our partner. However, we do not give up and always support the other person.
Every day, we talk about how far we've come as a group, and this weekend was no exception. We discussed prejudices and how everyone is often lumped together, and then concluded that if we had listened to other people's opinions, we would not be where we are today. My friend told me that the boss at his hotel in Uganda kept telling him not to bother with me and to work harder rather than making life easier for the spoiled European woman. She wasn't fond of "white women" from Europe or the United States. We can only guess at the reason.
But we didn't listen to her and formed our own opinions about the other person. She was surprised when the two of us returned to the hotel two years later, and she felt embarrassed and bad. She was always very friendly to me, especially the second time I went there.
I wouldn't trade places with anyone else, and I'm extremely grateful for all of the experiences I've had as a result of this relationship. My wish for the future is that we approach others and our interactions with them more openly and respectfully. We may have different appearances, backgrounds, and God knows how many other differences, but at the end of the day, we are all human. We would not be where we are today if we had listened to the many doubting voices, but we are grateful to these voices because they have strengthened us and taught us to stand up for ourselves.